Failures can often feel like ghosts that will never stop haunting you. Anytime you even think about trying something outside your comfort zone, one of those ghosts will jump up behind you, spooking you with all the bad things that happened last time you tried something new. Scaring you back to your same old same old.

What if you could turn those spooky ghosts into friendly ones? Have a light-hearted chat with one or two of them.

What if it was ok to tell people about our failures? Maybe even laugh at them? 

Failure can make us want to hide away. Make us feel incapable of doing anything right. Ashamed that we allowed ourselves a moment to believe in bigger possibilities for ourselves.

You hear people say there's no such thing as failure. Only opportunities for growth. Bleck!

Failure hurts. It stings. And it often feels like it's keeping us stuck in place, not moving us forward.

Our event is meant to bring some levity to failure. You'll get to tap into your humorous side, bring your humor to something that feels serious and heavy.

Facing Our Ghosts

Laughing with Our Ghosts

Next is the fun part where we get to play and create, using our failures as the starting points. I'll introduce you to my AI friend. He/she/it is a friendly AI that you can use to help craft your funny obituary or gravestone. 

I know AI can be scary too. It's an unknown entity with the potential for amazing things and also destructive things. But it exists in our world and needs people with good hearts to direct it in good ways. To bring some fun and lightness to it. 

You'll have the chance to chat with AI on your own, giving it some of the details of your small to medium sized failure. Then asking it to come up with a funny obituary or tombstone epitaph or anything else you'd like to create. It's your failure so it's up to you.

You're of course welcome to come up with your own funny memorial for your failure ghost, without using AI. I just personally find it way easier to let AI come up with the humorous side of things first, especially when dealing with a failure that I've been stuck in embarrassment about for a while.

Putting Our Ghosts to Rest

To give you a glimpse of what AI and a human can do together, check out IU's failure graveyard from last year's event. Some of the failures are purely fictional, made up by AI and me. Others are based on my own and IU members' personal failures.

I did my usual meditating and breathwork and it did help somewhat. But I still felt defeated, like I would never figure out how to make money on my own terms, no matter what I did. I felt really low energetically. I couldn’t find my spark.

At the same time, I was trying to come up with an event for IU’s "Dare to Suck…in Small, Non-Terrifying Ways" monthly theme. I started brainstorming ideas with AI and that eventually led to the idea for a failure graveyard. I “told” it about some of my past failures and asked it to make a funny obituary or tombstone out of it.

I laughed so much at what it came up with. One failure, that was over 20 years old and that I still felt embarrassed and ashamed about, was made so much lighter for me. And the energy that had been sapped by getting fired was suddenly rekindled. 

We held the failure fiesta event a few days later and it was one of my favorite events all year. Who knew it could feel so good to laugh at my failures? And with other people, not just AI.

If you sign up, I’ll send you a clip from that first event where I share a couple of my own flops. It’s not public — just a quiet offering for anyone curious. Even if you can’t make it to the live event, I hope the clip brings you a smile, maybe even a little lightness around your own human messiness.

Who This Event is For

This event is for you if you're an introvert who struggles with trying new things or pursuing your dreams because past failures haunt you. You may feel like you're stuck in place or can't get beyond old ways of doing things. That you'll never be able to figure out how to enjoy your life in this crazy world.

You are welcome to come if you're willing and able to:

• engage in quiet, solo activity for a portion of the event

• be open to playing with failure, AI, and humor

• listen well to others in a way that gives them space and time to gather their thoughts

The event itself is designed to be introvert friendly. Meaning there will be time spent quietly and independently playing with your failure ghost and AI or on your own if you can tap into your humor without AI's help. 

If there is a larger group, we'll use breakout rooms to give everyone a chance to chat with another participant one-on-one after the quiet activity, if you want to and only if you want to. If it's a small group, then everyone will be given a chance to speak, again only if you want to. The opportunity to speak and share your story is meant to continue lightening the load of failure, not something anyone is forced to do.

You're welcome to come and silently participate on your own, with your camera on or off. Though if the group is really small or if it's just you and me, it is helpful to me as the host for you to share your experience.

The event will not be recorded so that everyone, including me, can feel more at ease and comfortable. Facing our failures and talking about them with others is hard enough. No need to record it for posterity :) The failure graveyard can be the way we leave our mark and that can be done anonymously.

So I'm operating this whole thing on a pay from the heart basis. I see it as a way to bring more lightness and ease, maybe even love and trust, into the realm of money. I don't know about you, but that's not been my experience with money for most of my life. I'd like to change that moving forward.

The way it works is you decide if and how much to pay based on your experience of the event and your own financial situation. I can't know for sure if the event will prove valuable to you. Only you can judge that. 

If the event doesn't really do much for you, then I don't want you to pay anything. Who wants to pay for things that aren't beneficial? Certainly not me so I don't want to ask you to do so.

But if you do get something worthwhile out of it and you are in a good financial position, then your support would mean a great deal to me. To be able to build a business in such a free and open way would be a great gift. 

For the logistics of this to work, I'll be sending an email after the event with a link to IU's piggy bank, after you've had some time to reflect on how the event was for you. I will also share the link at the end of the event itself, in case you already know you want to donate. How much you choose to donate is totally up to you and your heart.

If finances are tight, then please do come for free. I'd love to have you.

Help Spread the Word?

If you're willing to help spread the word to other introverts about this event, that would be a great help to me. Even after all the events I've hosted, I am still an introvert myself and tooting my own horn or asking more and more people to join in can still be a struggle for me. Any help I can get with connecting with more kind and thoughtful introverts would be super helpful. You can simply share this link with them - http://www.introverts-unite.net/events-failure-fiesta - and they can decide for themselves if they'd like to join.

This Event Has Ended :(

This event was offered in October of 2025. If you're somehow landing here afterwards, you're still invited to subscribe below to stay connected and be notified of any future events. You'll also receive a free guided meditation to help you connect with your true self. I hope you'll sign up and we can meet at a future event :)